Extraordinary relationships for autistic kids
In my upcoming book, I Wish Someone Had Told Me, I write about the importance of finding your autistic child’s champion.
As a parent of an autistic child, you are the most important person in their life, hands down. But that doesn’t mean you’re the only important person in their life. Your life is probably sun up to sun down, full adrenaline, no-holds-barred parenting. That’s fine. But there are people who recognize those efforts, and that will engage in sharing a bit of the load. They will be a gigantic asset. You need to find those people.
We’ve recognized that we can’t do it alone. And so we surround ourselves with friends and family that truly love our son, and will do whatever it takes to make sure he has every opportunity to get a well rounded experience in this life.
Tonight, we had some friends over for dinner. Max loves football, and he loves our friend Brian. Brian was a collegiate wide receiver, and loves teaching Max new routes and tips on how to make more catches. It’s pretty fun to watch.
The level of engagement that Max will contribute to playing catch with Brian is on another level. The focus, the determination, and the success are all attributed to someone besides me stepping in and investing in Max. I couldn’t be more thankful.
It’s OK to take a break
It doesn’t diminish my role as a parent. On the contrary, it renews my ability. It gives me time to catch my breath from the stresses of what’s usually going on, and be fulfilled knowing that someone is willing to step in and do it with me. And to see Max get better at catching, and have a deeper understanding of the game he loves is sweet satisfaction.
Find your child’s champion. Brian is one example of several of Max’s champions. Find that person that will engage with your child on a deeper level. You’ll be thankful you did. It may surprise you who that person is. And those people may come and go. But the restoration and life that it will bring to your ability to parent will be paramount to your success. Get out and find them.
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