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Pushing Boundaries

A couple months ago, Jamie asked me, “What do you think we should get the kids for Christmas?” “I don’t know,” I said, “What did we get them last year?” “I don’t remember,” she said. “Neither do I,” I said. “Kids! Come in here!” I shouted, “Do you remember what you got for Christmas last […]

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You Just Never Know

I walked into the kitchen the other day, and Jamie handed me a sheet of paper with a weird look on her face. There was no explanation, no words. Just an odd look that I couldn’t interpret. I grabbed the paper, still looking her in the eyes and very curious. I slowly glanced down. It […]

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The Fog – Looking at Depression and Autism

I took a break from writing for a couple months. I’d love to say that I’ve been too busy, or my computer was broken, or some other excuse. But the truth is this – my head has been in a fog and it’s been tough to concentrate. It would be nice to point to one […]

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Seahawks vs. Ravens

For some strange reason, Max is a gigantic Baltimore Ravens fan. Actually we know the reason. When Joe Flacco was their QB, he was number 5. That’s Max’s favorite number. I don’t think any other QB at the time had number 5, so Joe Flacco and the Baltimore Ravens became Max’s favorites. Russell Wilson and […]

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The Chains That Bind

For a long time, when trying to explain communication, interaction, and understanding with Max to those around me, I’ve used the imagery of an invisible set of chains wrapped tightly around his head. They’re thick, heavy chains, and no matter how hard Jamie and I try, no proverbial crow bar or bolt cutter can remove […]

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Grace

As a blogger, I can write posts and leave them in my drafts folder to edit and post later. This post has been sitting in my drafts folder for a really long time. Too long. Especially since I’ve been pondering this idea for many years. This post has gone through several iterations, and I’m just […]

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Engaging In Your Child’s Education

It’s that time of year again! Kids are back in school and there’s plenty of things to be anxious about as a parent. For us, the big one this year is that this is Max’s first year at middle school. He no longer has his elementary special education teacher and her classroom as a safe […]

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To Friends And Family Of Those Parenting An Autistic Child

In my upcoming book, I Wish Someone Had Told Me, a whole chapter is dedicated to how parents of an autistic child experience change, good and bad, in their social landscape. The general premise is that parenting an autistic child can be hard to experience as a parent, therefore can be hard to watch for […]

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The Public Death Match

DISCLAIMER – I got Max’s full permission to tell this story publicly. In no way do I ever want to embarrass or humiliate him, so I fully explained to him what I was doing prior to posting. We had a good laugh about the story that I’m about to tell, and it’s purely meant as […]

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Fear Has No Place

A formal autism diagnosis brings a wide range of emotions. On one hand, there’s a sense of relief. You don’t have to wonder anymore. You don’t have to explain your situation by a set of idiosyncrasies. You can call it what it’s formally known as. And maybe best of all, you can put together a […]

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Intense Mental Hack

Don’t miss the video at the end One of the biggest focuses of my life has become the need to stay physically, mentally, and spiritually fit. Sure, I enjoy being active and want to perform well when I’m skiing or riding my bike, but that’s not the primary focus. As an parent of an autistic […]

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In The Quiet Hours

As Max has grown older, his ability to know, understand, and discuss autism has grown with him. He’s almost 12 now, and he has known he is autistic for a little more than a year. He recognizes that autism is an underlying reason behind his anger, and he also knows that it has provided him […]

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Date Night!

We got a gift this last weekend. A whole weekend with no kids! Just the two of us! It was the first time in a really long time. Really long time. On Saturday, we went to a concert at maybe the most beautiful amphitheater in the world. On Sunday, we went on a hike in […]

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Surfers Healing

Our Personal Story With An Incredible Organization I only get to the ocean a couple times a year, and as a periodic surfer, I completely understand the incredible physiological effects of catching waves. There is something so magical about allowing God’s wonderful creation to pick you up and move you across a watery landscape. If […]

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The Delicate Balance of Transparency

What we say about our autistic kids and how we say it will affect their future The theme of this entire blog platform is geared toward helping young parents in their journey with autism. Very little of it (so far anyway) has to do with autistic adults. But one fundamental ingredient all parents need to […]

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